Kraft Heinz sponsored this post but the opinions are my own.
As moms, it can seem like a lot of our day is spent saying “no”. When they are little, it’s “No, you can’t stick that up your nose”. As they get older it’s more like “No, you can’t play that violent, rated M video game even though your friend’s parents let him play it.” I’m sure that kids think we love saying no all the time and get a thrill out of denying them the things they want. But you and I know that nothing could be further from the truth. It’s actually a natural instinct to want to give our kids whatever they want and we enjoy seeing the smile on their face when we are able to say yes.
The idea of a “day of yes” is not a new one but it’s been awhile since we had one in our house. Thanks to our sponsor, Capri Sun, we were able to recently have another fun “yes day” and I’m excited to share some tips I’ve picked up over the years to make sure our “yes days” go as smoothly as possible.
1. Explain that there are still a few core rules and values that your family sticks to, no matter what. We have a rule against energy drinks that contain caffeine, sugar and other stimulants. That rule does not change just because we are having a “yes day”. Letting your kids know that the hard and fast rules you always live by are still in effect should hopefully cut down on the “pie in the sky” requests.
2. Prepare and prep so that you can avoid having to say no when some predictable requests come up. Packing a cooler with a drink that you are okay with, like Capri Sun, means no requests to go through the fast food drive thru to grab a soda. If you don’t want to be stopping for an expensive restaurant meal, pack a fun lunch you can eat as a picnic.
3.Present “which would you rather” scenarios. Offer a few different things that your kids can choose from. As long as they are all things you would be willing to do, you can’t lose no matter which they choose. Would you rather go bowling or roller-skating avoids the requests to go to an amusement park when you ask the kids what they would like to do. (Hey – I’d rather go to an amusement park too!!)
4. Make “yes day” something the kids can earn. Once the kids have experienced a yes day, they will want more. Use a “yes day” as a reward for whatever desired behavior you are hoping to encourage – keeping their rooms clean, doing chores for a month, whatever fits your family!
So what is the connection between Capri Sun and our “yes day”? I’ve always been pretty picky about what I allow Josh to drink and/or eat. We try to stay away from too much sugar or high fructose corn syrup or artificial flavors and colors. Capri Sun has a line of beverages that contains no high fructose corn syrup, no artificial colors or preservatives. With Capri Sun available at Walmart, I feel comfortable saying YES when Josh asks if we can get some! And once he gets me saying yes to that, it’s easier to get me to say yes to…
a lobster lunch
climbing a tree
catching a baseball game